I have decided I do NOT want to be the kind of person that makes other people feel worse about themselves. Yes. I have made that decision. Did you just make that decision now? You hadn't made it before?, you might ask. To which I would respond yes and no.
I think it takes a conscious effort to make people feel comfortable. To make them feel like you are approachable, that they can talk to you. I think that most of the time, it is easier and more convenient and more [falsely] fulfilling to try to be cool. I'm being serious! I do this a lot, I think. No matter who you are, you probably spend time trying to be cool for other people. I don't want to do that anymore. I don't think we should spend time trying to be cool, and my reasons are threefold
1) you probably are failing. I say this not in a pessimistic, critical way. But more like a there-are-always-going-to-be-people-who-are-"cooler"-than-you-no-matter-what-you-say-or-do-or-wear-or-anything-like-that way.
2) trying to be cool makes other people feel less like they like being themselves.
3) I have a sneaky suspicion that people didn't think Jesus was hip or cool at the time. But I bet they DID think he was approachable, and encouraging, and they liked being around him because, even if he suggested you make certain lifestyle changes, it would be in a way that did NOT make you feel like you regretted the day you were born. He probably did it in a way where you knew it would be good, and would bring you closer to the way you were created to be ANYWAY.
Anyway, I say all this because I would much rather be one of those friends that makes you like being you, than one of those friends that makes you cry about how you wish you were someone else.
this is, in fact, what I am saying.
mara
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